Mum and Dad arrived at 1pm and Mum helped me divert disaster with the veg - the steamer stopped working and the roast chicken and potatoes were slowly getting cold waiting! Lovely lunch and chatting although Charlie a pain for some reason.
Told M&D I am off to Scotland if these ludicrous proposals go through. Unbelievably they didn't think I was mad but Mum believes that the government will never have the balls to put it through and thinks they are just desperately scrabbling around in an effort to make themselves look better after Baby P etc. I am not so convinced. Being a lesbian, home educating single parent whose child never has any contact anymore with his father does not put me in a good position. Too many minorities for one small family, I can already see the persecution.
Thankfully right now I am still off the radar completely (a huge plus of having withdrawn him from a private school & then moved 100 odd miles away almost 2 years later) My GP never, ever remembers he is HE'd so I don't think it's in his notes either. He was way too old to be on the health visitors radar when we moved here, and in fact never see the HV where we lived before either.
I don't have anything to hide but I have seen first hand in my old job, the every day assumptions and mistakes that Social Workers constantly make in Care cases and I refuse to let there even be at 1% chance of that happening to us. People asking them for help and their children taken away, childrens comments misinterpreted completely, innocent parents prosecuted and loosing everything. Even parents whom have made mistakes in the past, desperately working hard to change and that still not being good enough.
I'm concerned enough to have started to make plans for a potential move, and if it becomes necessary I will do it. I've never, ever wanted to live up North, but I have to protect our family life. It would be so easy for Charlie to be ordered into school as he is so behind the NC guidelines for maths. Of course the fact is way ahead in every other subject would be ignored. I reckon he would last two weeks before doing something to get himself expelled. I know that he would do everything in his power to get himself expelled. He isn't stupid, and in fact is clever enough to make a plan in advance and follow it through. Hell, he did it at age 6. Planning each night how he could sneak out of the classroom the next day without being seen and going missing in the school grounds for hours at a time, and he did it. Not once did he get caught actually sneaking out! God only knows what he would do at 11 to avoid school.
That, and the whole thing truly frightens me, probably in a way that is hard for many people, even other HE'ers to understand. Being a lesbian is already considered weird, unnatural and a million other negative things, being a lesbian with a child even more so. So many prejudices out there from officials, so many obstacles in our way to make families, legal, medical and social. It's already standard practice to make examples out of us, to punish us in ways that don't happen to straight women.
Perhaps the most frightening thing of all is that this may prompt his father to suddenly decide to seek residency and that is something I would move to Australia to avoid.
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